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“You know I actually think(!)….” I can’t remember what he said because I was so focused on his blatant interruption when she was in the middle of her sentence.
He was a middle-aged man who worked, had a wife and kids, and was going back to school. After we listened to him gripe about spending time with his family, his face showed a glimpse of enthusiasm talking about his ice-skiing group in central Texas. Then back to his sullen life.
This was our first year at Mary Hardin-Baylor and she was telling a story to me and him in the Sub. He didn’t care what she had to say—loudly barging in to cut her off and say something unworthy of memory.
We hate it when this happens to us, but we ignore it when we do it to others. And that is why Jesus resurrected: so that you would close your mouth, quiet your brain, and pay attention to the one who speaks.
His resurrection produced the new creation. The new creation plan includes a humanity united in purpose and renewed in heart: to serve rather than be served and to hear rather than be heard.
We intrude into others’ used air space because what we have to say is more important than what the other is saying.
Jesus’ resurrection means you don’t have to take part in “survival of the loudest.” Because you don’t have to be heard.
The world is not responsible to shape itself to your words nor is it reliable to care about your problems. We would all agree with this, but rarely live like it. Yet when you interrupt, count on them tuning you out.
The resurrection reveals that the world bends to God’s desires and Jesus reveals that God is a good God who cares about you.
So be assured that Jesus hears you.
He’s alive. He won’t tune you out, obnoxiously interrupt, or mock you. His eyes are fixed on yours. His mind is quiet to hear. And he has already said the words, “I am the resurrection.” Life changing.
Listening is one of the easiest ways to set aside your agenda and love others—just as Jesus has loved you.
Covey’s teaching is the best: when you converse with people, focus on what they say and how they feel about what they say. Withhold verbal prodding and advice giving.
Start there and see what happens to your relationships.
Thanks,
Aaron